Everyone’s angry, no, everyone’s scared
And you can’t choose a side ’cause you don’t really care
How does it feel to be free when you feel nothing?

You got five hundred channels distracting your brain
Benzos and wine to numb out the pain
Why should you feel anything?
It’s all so boring

Oh, all we need is
Something real to believe in
Oh, all we need is
Something real to believe in

Putting the pill on the tip of your tongue
‘Cause you’re trying to be free or you’re trying to be young
Someday the summer ends and then you’re over

Are we stupid or brave?
Do you think we can save what’s left of the American dream?
They say we didn’t pay to hear opinions
So why don’t you shut up and sing?

Oh, all we need is
Something real to believe in
Oh, all we need is
Something real to believe in

Dreamin’ of a perfect day
The kind that don’t exist here anyway
But I can still dream
It’s still legal to resist
At least I think it is
Long as my eyes are closed
As long as my eyes are closed
As long as my eyes are closed
As long as my eyes are closed
As long as my eyes are closed
As long as my eyes are closed
As long as my eyes are closed
As long as my eyes are closed
As long as my eyes are closed

Oh, all we need is
Something real to believe in
Oh, all we need is
Something real to believe in

Written by: John T. Rzeznik, Brad Fernquist,  Andrew Pearson

On album: You Should Be Happy EP, released in May 2017

Voices in the dead of night
Whisper words of loneliness
It’s true
Footsteps echo down the hall
Comin’ ever closer to you
It’s not fair for mortal man
To put up with this pain
I’m goin’ through
You should be happy
Now you’re on your own
You should be happy
Now you’re on your own
If I could walk through that door
I’d leave behind these broken memories
Trapped inside this empty room
Despiration’s closing in on me
If I had your heart of stone
I could break these chains
And I’d be free
You should be happy
Now you’re on your own
You should be happy
Now you’re on your own
I could be happy
I could be happy, someday
If you would have tried
If you hadn’t lied
We’d never be alone again
Now you’re on your own
Yes, you’re on your own
You should be
Now you’re on your own
Oh yes, you’re on your own
But, now I’m
Now I’m on my own
Written by: Randy Goodrum & Stephen Ray Perry
From Steve Perry’s Album, Street Talk, released in 1984

A healthy and loving relationship can enhance different aspects of your life such as, the physical health, overall happiness and the mental and emotional well being. For most people, it seems like an impossible task to find someone they want to share their lives with. If you are one of them, you do not need to despair; even if you have a history of failed relationships or you feel betrayed by the traditional or online dating. It is still possible to learn how to find love.

When we begin looking for someone to enter into a romantic relationship with, most of use tends to do so with some predetermined expectations. These include details such as how the person should look like and behave, the pace of the relationship and the role of each partner. These expectations are usually influenced by different factors such as family history, peer influence, past experiences and even ideals promoted by TV shows and movies. However, when you retain these unrealistic expectations, you make any potential partner look inadequate and you may end up feeling disappointed by any new relationship.

The first step towards finding the right types of love is to differentiate between what you needs and wants in a partner. While wants are negotiable, needs aren’t. Wants are made up of things that you feel you would like in a partner such as occupation, physical attributes and intellect. Though these traits may appear crucial to you in the beginning, with time, you will realize that you were just limiting your choices. For instance, you can choose to have someone who is caring rather than handsome or humorous rather than wealthy. Needs are the things that matters most to you. These include the values, goals and ambitions in life. It may be difficult to find out about these things by looking at a person on the first day you meet them.

When searching for the right type of love, avoid making it to be the center of your life. Instead, concentrate on activities that you enjoy such as your health, career and relationships with families and friends. This will enable you to have a balanced life and you become a more interesting person. Avoid relying on first impression particularly when dealing with internet dating as people always try to hide their negative aspect. Be honest about your own shortcomings and flaws. Since everyone has a shortcoming, you must ensure that the person loves you for who you are. Avoid rushing to make the relationship sexual.

Expand your social circle and try to have fun by participating in a new event. For instance, you can volunteer, join a dance class or join a hiking group. This will be more productive than spending time in dating sites or sports bar. When faced with rejection, learn to handle it gracefully and do not be overcome with embarrassment, anger or anxiety. Look out for relationship red flags that may indicate that the affair isn’t going anywhere. These include a relationship that is alcohol dependent, the other partner doesn’t want to commit, the other person doesn’t seem interested in communicating with you, controlling behavior or an exclusively sexual relationship. In such cases, cut your loses early enough.

When you find a budding relationship, nurture it. Bear in mind that finding the right person is the first step in a journey of a thousand miles. This will require time, effort and a true interest in the other person. Invest your time and effort in the relationship. Be open in communicating with your partner. Resolve conflicts in a fair fight such as talking it out quietly or passionately disagreeing. Accept the good and bad times, which are part and parcel of any relationship. However, a healthy relationship should be good for you. Any healthy relationship should include plenty of kissing too. As such, it might be a good idea to study the types of kisses to keep things lively. You wouldn’t want to be seen as a bad kisser, would you?

Depression is one of the most common issues which we encounter in our lives. However, most of the times, the root cause of the depression goes undiagnosed and we end up taking useless medication for an ailment which increases in complexity over time. ADD or Attention Deficit Disorder can turn out to be one of the major causes of depression and along with children this can affect adults as well. It has become important to understand how to deal with ADD and depression in order to lead a healthy and organized life and there are some simple steps apart from medication, which can enable adults suffering from both ADD and depression to overcome this ailment.

There are subtle signs which one can look for in order to understand if the root cause of the depression is due to Adult ADD ADHD or not. Patients suffering from depression due to an underlying ADD issue will experience and prolonged and regular sadness. Moreover, the organization skills and ability to maintain focus on one subject will turn out to be an arduous task. Those suffering from depression due to other reasons might also find it quite difficult to find anything around them as interesting and therefore, it becomes essential in both cases of depression to look for activities which will allow one to increase their focus and interest.

Those suffering from ADD usually tend to participate in too many activities without properly investing their focus and interest in any of them. Therefore, it is essential to commit to fewer activities in order to increase focus. For example, participating in multiple volunteering activities can cause more issues than actually increasing focus or interest. Thus, committing to only very few activities or in extreme cases of depression, in only one kind of activity will help in setting focus and concentration.

It is also important to set up constant reminders for different tasks which may require immediate attention. People suffering from depression and ADD tend to lose track of time and miss deadlines easily. This can cause issues in both personal and professional life. Thus, maintaining alerts on phones, calendars or even setting alarms on clocks to complete a particular activity may help maintaining a proper schedule. One can also ask family members or friends to supervise such alerts or ask them to remind them about certain deadlines in order to keep track of time and perspective regarding certain activities.

In order to understand how to deal with ADD and depression it is also important to join a support group for ADD and depression. Here, with the help of others, who are also going through the same experience, it will become easier to understand the exact condition and coping mechanisms which the others might be following. Simplifying items like wardrobes and closets will help in better organization capabilities thus allowing easier ways to make a choice regarding clothing and accessories. Moreover, proper organization reduces the risk of cluttering thus saving up wasted minutes which one can utilize in pursuing interesting activities. By choosing these simple steps it becomes easier to deal with ADD and depression.

Before taking any steps, be sure to consult with a professional. At times, the types of manic depression, and a combination of ADD and depression can seem very similar, so I professional can help you determine what is actually going on as they require different types of treatment and medications.

It’s always a good idea to consult a professional when it comes to diagnosing any type of disorder or disease, but there are symptoms which can help you recognize an issue with depression. There are several kinds, but the main categories can be divided into six groups. Each has their own signs, orientation and complications. Which of the different types of depression do you have?

Major Depressive Disorder

Also known as clinical depression, it’s a condition which leaves an individual unable to function properly. In other words; summoning energy to do something; loss of interest in just about everything along with being sad for long periods at a time are the symptoms connected with major depressive disorder. Keep in mind it should developed naturally. There are certain types of depression medication which can lead to the same result, which means it’s not natural. It also cannot be diagnosed if in a 2 months’ timeframe of losing a loved one. If for no reason you find yourself unable to study, sleep, eat or do anything because you don’t feel it’s worth doing, then you might suffer from this disorder.

Chronic Depression or Dysthymia

A long term state of depression but not as severe as the first one. Some symptoms can be associated with major depression, but chronic depression only affects your mood. Even though a person can function normally, a pessimistic outlook in conjunction with feeling sad all the time for more than 2 years are the telltale signs of dysthymia.

Atypical Depression

This type of depression can be seen as doing certain things in excess, for instance sleeping. The affected person will sleep for hours on end and still stay tired. Overeating and a rapid change in mood, for better or worse, is their response to a situation. Sufferers are also prone to handle rejection with negative feelings. They are over sensitive when it comes to being rejected in any way.

Bipolar disorder (Manic Depression)

Bipolar is probably the most complex disorder amongst the rest. It involves dramatic mood swings. A patient will suffer from sleeplessness, sometimes for days. Paranoia, hallucinations, rage and delusion are just some of the bad experiences associated with manic depression. It is a very serious condition and should be treated as soon as possible.

Seasonal Depression

It happens every year at a specific time. Usually it can be expected to arise during winter or fall. According to doctors, hormones are the cause of the depression. Sunlight is reduced when winter and fall comes around, meaning less serotonin production in the body. There is no need for alarm or running to the drugstore, seeing as it’s a mild case of feeling irritated and somewhat sad. If you do want treatment then contact your doctor.

Psychotic Depression

Delusion, hallucinations and psychosis are major symptoms of psychotic depression. These signs follow depression and it’s a very dangerous disorder. The patient is unaware of reality, or rather breaks away from it.

Like mentioned before, consult a medical expert if you think for some reason you suffer from above mentioned depression. Rule out all possible explanations before diagnosing yourself.

When people hear the word bulling, the first thing that comes to mind is a kid getting his lunch money taken at school. There are many types of bullying though, and it occurs in more places than we realize, and isn’t always physical. One of the places where bullying occurs is at the workplace, some people are bullied by their bosses or co-workers without realizing it.

Some signs of bullying in the workplace are constant criticism of your work, even if you are doing good work, other workers talking behind your back, your boss yelling at you in front of the other employees, or being excluded from group activities outside of work.

Some of the ways to deal with bullies in the workplace are:

Keeping calm, bullies want to see you get emotional because it makes them feel that their tactics are working. You should try to remain calm no matter what the situation is.

Make sure you are doing your work well, if you aren’t you will be justifying the behavior of the bully. Show up to work on time, don’t take long breaks, basically, don’t give the bully any ammunition.

Keep a journal of every incident where you were bullied, do not delete any abusive e-mails the bully sent, note the date, time, and people who were around when you are bullied in public to take to your human resources department if the bullying escalates.

Try not to blame yourself, a lot of people who are bullied blame themselves. It is the bully that has a problem they need to deal with, and they are just taking their frustrations out on you, and you shouldn’t give them the satisfaction.

Establish a good relationship with your other co-workers, because if you have a good relationship with other co-workers, it will be hard for the bully to turn them against you, and might actually stop bullying you if the other co-workers call the bully out on their behavior.

You can seek counseling as a way to deal with workplace bullying. Talking to someone can help reduce the stress you are feeling, talking it over with a therapist can also help you find other ways to deal with the bullying.

Read up on your company’s policy in regards to bullying, and intimidation in the workplace, if it is something frowned upon, you might have a case to take to the human resources department.

Going to the human resources department is a tricky proposition, normally if you document the instances of bullying; they would be able to take action against the bully. If you company doesn’t really have an anti bullying policy, you might have put yourself in a bad situation depending on how popular the employee bullying you is. Someone in the human resources might tell the bully what you told them, and the situation might get worse. Make sure you read the company policy before you go to the human resources department.

Nobody should have to put up with bullying in any situation, especially at the workplace where everyone is expected to be professional. If you find yourself in a situation where you are getting bullied, put an end to it by trying the steps listed above.

Anxiety is very common when a person comes under a lot of stress. While this can prove to be beneficial in some instances, in excessive amounts it can pose as a major health hazard. When the feeling of anxiety grown beyond controllable measures, it can affect a person’s day-to-day life in various ways. Some types of anxiety disorders include post-traumatic stress disorder, obsessive-compulsive disorder, and panic disorder. According to statistics, more than 40 million Americans aged 18 and above are at the risk of developing this disorder each year.

The disorder can be treated by either some types of anxiety medication or psychotherapy or sometimes even both. However, there are ways in which individuals can overcome this disorder naturally. Listed below are some steps to overcome anxiety without taking any medication.

Ways To Overcome Anxiety

Identify The Problem

The first step to overcome anxiety is to identify the problem and recognize the source of this disorder. Often, this disorder is masked by frustration, anger and depression. Very often, a person suffering from this problem finds himself snapping at others for no reason. Identifying the source of this anxiousness can help that person tackle and deal with the problem directly. If not, the individual can also try staying away from the triggering source.

Be Positive and Stay Calm

Many experts have suggested that people suffering from anxiety often find solace from their disorder when they stay positive, hopeful and calm. People who are hopeful often start focusing on the positives in life, thus being less depressed or anxious. Staying calm helps reduce hypertension which can lead to anxiety. One way of feeling positive about one’s self is facing a mirror and showering one’s self with compliments and positive feedback. Another way to do so is to dress well. It is often said a person feels how he dresses.

Adopt A Healing Program & Follow A Healthy Daily Exercise Routine

There are many healing programs available these days that helps a person overcome anxiety. These programs are very powerful and can help an individual break the cycle of regular anxiety attacks. It is very important to adopt a regular fitness regime too. This can including working out at a gym, yoga or dance classes – anything to keep the body and mind fit and active. Apart from exercising regularly, it is also important to follow a healthy lifestyle. This includes getting adequate sleep, indulging in physical activities, eating healthy and well as well as eating meals on time.

Avoid Activities That Trigger Anxiety

Physicians often recommend that people who suffer from anxiety should refrain from watching movies or listening to music that triggers their disorder. This doesn’t mean he or she should sit idle. In fact, idleness has been determined to be a driving force of anxiety. Therefore, it is important to engage the mind in some activity or the other. It is extremely crucial that such people build the will to overcome their disorder from within.

In most cases, these steps to overcome anxiety naturally can prove to be very helpful. However, when the disorder is very severe, it is important to take professional help as it may need medication and psychotherapy to treat.

Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder is a developmental disorder that is otherwise called ADHD. This condition consists of attention problems and hyperactivity. The symptoms of the problem usually show before the age of seven. This psychiatric disorder affects roughly 3 to 5percent of children all over the world. This is a chronic disorder and often the symptoms are still present in adulthood. It is considered to be more frequently occurring in males in comparison to females. However, recent studies show that that may not be the case. Male children are generally more rambunctious in nature and there may be a subjective bias with regard to the teachers.

Do I Have Adult ADHD?

Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder or ADHD is not just a chronic childhood problem. Children with ADHD usually carry the symptoms into adulthood, especially if they did not receive appropriate psychiatric care as a child. Sadly, many cases go unnoticed and the affected people are labeled as dreamers, slackers, goof-offs, troublemakers or worse.

While it may have been easier to compensate for your ADHD at a young age, adults are faced with more stress. With more responsibilities to take on, chances are, the symptoms take hold of you much more often than in childhood. With a career, family and bills to worry about, there are more reasons to feel anxious. ADHD is a problem that has nothing to do with just willpower. Fortunately, it can be treated with counseling, activities and medication if it is needed.

Adult ADHD Checklist

  • The symptoms of ADHD in adults are quite different from that in children as adults may learn to compensate for their condition. Here are a few telltale signs of adult ADHD
  • The patient can be overly engrossed or absorbed in a show, book or any activity that are stimulating. Although this coping mechanism can become an asset when used for productive purposes, it can also negatively influence the person’s relationships and career. In example, the patient can spend hours deeply immersed in a favorite computer game that he forgets to do his household chores.
  • A person with ADHD is usually disorganized and forgetful. Staying organized is hard for a person with ADHD. The home or office of the individual may be extremely cluttered, messy and unorganized. He will have trouble starting and finishing tasks. Chronic lateness can also be a problem. He or she constantly misplaces things as well.
  • The individual who has ADHD has addictive tendencies and low self-esteem. He or she absorbs the negative comments growing up and is usually an under-achiever if he or she has not received proper psychiatric help.
  • He or she has emotional issues due to many factors. The patient with ADHD is six times more prone to developing anxiety disorders. His or her mind is perpetually racing and sometimes acts impulsively.

If you fit into any of the categories, please visit a health care professional to obtain a complete adult ADHD checklist. Remember that ADHD can be treated with the right approach and medication. Do not let it take over your life.

The overwhelming assumption about adult ADD and depression is that it might be a touch of over-diagnosis. Those who hold on to this myth believe an “alleged” ADD adult could actually maintain strong focus on the things that he or she finds interesting or exciting. As many who suffer have discovered, it is misconceptions like these that harm the most.

One reason it may be easy to write off adult ADHD and depression as a void in personal mettle is because it has always been assumed that ADD is a childhood disease. People believe that children grow out of it or that those who have not been diagnosed as children could not possibly have it later in life. Similarly, many believe it is a fairly easy health challenge to overcome for good. Both of these thoughts are dangerous assumptions.

Although many people self-diagnose as ADD, it is important to understand the myriad symptoms that could indicate the onset of attention deficit disorder. It is fairly common knowledge that most people with ADD have trouble concentrating and staying focused.

Other traits that accompany this inability to stay focused are: trailing off in the middle of conversations; jumping repeatedly from thought to thought or subject to subject without finishing any one completely; a seeming inability to finish any task; repeatedly failing to follow directions and overlooking details in work, which leads to a lot of mistakes; and difficulty remembering the particulars of conversations. Many of these habits tend to make sufferers hyperactive and impulsive.

One thing that is not often discussed about this condition is there is also a tendency to get hyper-fixated on a single task or event that feels exciting. People in hyperfocus mode tune everything and everyone around them out, lose track of time and disregard important responsibilities.

ADD can begin to escalate to or co-exist with depression when there has been an established pattern of forgetfulness, tardiness, missing important meetings or appointments or excessive talkativeness. People who interact with the ADD adult and do not understand what is happening can grow intolerant. Ultimately, this leads to many feelings of inadequacy, embarrassment and lowered self-esteem. So, the problem has potential negative impact for employment, relationships, physical and mental health and financial matters.

Experts advise those struggling with adult ADD and depression to get plenty of sleep and exercise and to eat properly. Most people have been able to lead happy, productive lives when they connect with others who are coping with the same condition or with organizations that offer support. For those who tend to miss deadlines and appointments, there are many tools available to assist with reminders — even mobile phones that can alarm days or hours before a deadline.

The key to finding balance is to be proactive about building an emotional support and resource network for yourself and always know that you are never alone.